All of us have encountered or will encounter problems in love relationships. There is no relationship without challenges, difficulties, or doubts. If you are struggling with your partner, the quickest way to fail is to run far away from your current partner.
Of course, if there are violent acts or behaviors in the relationship, you need to get out of that toxic relationship. But if this is not the case and you are just struggling with what every couple does, running away is probably not the best move, in particular if you sincerely love your partner.
In a book entitled The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the “Love Lab” About What Women Really Want (I dislike this title!), by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, the authors argue that most failed relationships result from the fact that men do not understand women. Thus, the responsibility of failure mostly falls on men’s shoulders.
Therefore, the authors of this book believe that it is up to us, the men, to understand women better than we usually do, and that science can help.
Acknowledgements: Note that this post is based on a book written by specialists in various fields who have written numerous evidence-based academic papers on similar topics. Nevertheless, some of their statements could be criticized, for instance from a gender studies critical approach. Even though I feel uncomfortable with some of the authors’ statements, I find this book useful for people who are experiencing waves in their relationship with their partner. I have no other intentions here than to help them.
What Women Are Looking For In A Relationship
The authors write in a humorous way about what women are looking for in a relationship. They explain:
“What is the number one thing that women are looking for in a man? Six-pack abs? Six-figure bank account? A tall, handsome man riding a white horse? No, no, and no.”