Great meditation Romanic, and what you said about these glib assertions of the virtues of failure is a way of avoiding the feelings, the bad feelings, and failing to think about what happened so as to learn from it. But this virtuealization of failure happens against the backdrop of a very competitive society where "failure is not an option." It is a refusal to be perceived as a looser, a defense mechanism. At the same time it gives cover to people who failed and were able to eventually get there becuase they had the resoruces, support, and social assumption of success. What is wrong with the rest of us that we don't eventually become gazillionaires?
Am a fan of the old Chinese proverb: Perseverance Furthers. It doesn't promise anything per se, but it gives a hint, that something may yet come from one's efforts.
Great text! A lot of interesting thoughts in there.
I just want to add, that apart from what you yourself can do to head for success, your surroundings also have a say.
In my experience, people can say "get back on your horse, you can do it!" if you fail, or they can say "I told you so, this just isn't you".
The number of people you have around you of one and the other kind will often determine if you can keep up the spirit long enough to finally succeed, but it will also influence the actual success level you are at while trying:
Think of a writer who doesn't have many readers – for that very reason, he/she will not get many more. People tend to follow the popular, thereby rewarding success with their attention, and possibly also monetary support and more (when buying the popular writer's books, for instance), while they punish failure by staying at an arms length's distance of the failed.
For all kinds of success that has a place and a definition in society, the society itself is a factor to count in when looking at your chances of reaching it.
That’s a great addition. The way others react to our failures or early efforts can either sustain or quietly undermine us. As you said, success depends not only on what we do, but also on how our environment responds. Thank you 🙏
Great meditation Romanic, and what you said about these glib assertions of the virtues of failure is a way of avoiding the feelings, the bad feelings, and failing to think about what happened so as to learn from it. But this virtuealization of failure happens against the backdrop of a very competitive society where "failure is not an option." It is a refusal to be perceived as a looser, a defense mechanism. At the same time it gives cover to people who failed and were able to eventually get there becuase they had the resoruces, support, and social assumption of success. What is wrong with the rest of us that we don't eventually become gazillionaires?
You raise a crucial point. It seems we are on the same page politically!l
Am a fan of the old Chinese proverb: Perseverance Furthers. It doesn't promise anything per se, but it gives a hint, that something may yet come from one's efforts.
That’s a good one!
Great text! A lot of interesting thoughts in there.
I just want to add, that apart from what you yourself can do to head for success, your surroundings also have a say.
In my experience, people can say "get back on your horse, you can do it!" if you fail, or they can say "I told you so, this just isn't you".
The number of people you have around you of one and the other kind will often determine if you can keep up the spirit long enough to finally succeed, but it will also influence the actual success level you are at while trying:
Think of a writer who doesn't have many readers – for that very reason, he/she will not get many more. People tend to follow the popular, thereby rewarding success with their attention, and possibly also monetary support and more (when buying the popular writer's books, for instance), while they punish failure by staying at an arms length's distance of the failed.
For all kinds of success that has a place and a definition in society, the society itself is a factor to count in when looking at your chances of reaching it.
That’s a great addition. The way others react to our failures or early efforts can either sustain or quietly undermine us. As you said, success depends not only on what we do, but also on how our environment responds. Thank you 🙏